10 Things to Do on Days When You Just Want to Quit Up
“When you get into a tight situation and everything goes against you, until it looks as if you could not hold on a minute longer, never give up then, because that is precisely the place and time when the tide will turn.”
Harriet Beecher Stowe
Some days are bright and full with creativity. Some days are just routine.
And on certain days you may say to yourself: “I give up”.
You may feel like simply giving up on…
Your new habit of working out or eating better.
Your own small company or blog since you haven’t received the outcomes you anticipated or intended.
Really feeling better about yourself.
Dating because you can’t seem to find the proper person or maybe even have a decent date at all.
Ending up in such circumstances is a typical aspect of making great changes in life.
Yet what you do when you feel like giving up will decide a lot about where your life will go.
In today’s essay I’d like to offer 10 things that have helped me to cling on or to shift course on those tough days.
1. Tap into reasonable expectations.
This one has been really meaningful to me.
Dig into realistic expectations nor by listening to advertising that promises you instant results. Not by listening to the perfectionism – from the people around you or yourself – that permits no errors or failures.
Tap into it by listening to the folks who have already gone where you wish to go.
Listen to the folks who know what works and how you will fall and fail along the route and can tell you how long your trip may take.
You'll probably not receive an exact blueprint. Yet the things others may tell you in person or through books and blogs can be a terrific advice.
2. Remind yourself why you are doing this.
It’s easy to miss the larger picture in the bustling daily lives.
So if you feel like giving up then try reconnecting with why you are doing what you are doing.
Maybe it is to:
Support and keep your family secure.
Live healthier and longer so you get to see your kids grow up.
See the globe and experience new things.
Write your responses down.
So, anytime you feel like quitting up take out that piece of paper with your most strong why(s) (s). That frequently helps.
3. Remember: It’s darker before the morning.
This notion has helped me to hold on when things have been incredibly tough and I felt like giving up and returning home. Because I have discovered it to be true.
When things looked to be at the lowest point with my blog and company, with my dating life or with my drive in life in general something always occurred.
Maybe pretty frequently since being at that low place prompted me to adjust something in how I conducted things.
But maybe also because life appears to have some sort of balance if I simply keep going. If I simply keep taking action instead of giving up and doing nothing then something positive always occurs.
Watching this repeat itself boosted my conviction in taking action and to stay going even on hard days or weeks.
And it offers some comfort even when things appear fairly grim.
4. Reconnect with the essentials.
When I have ran into a plateau or a lengthier hard stretch then one thing that has frequently helped is to simplify and reconnect with the essentials.
It is easy to feel overwhelmed by all the information out there regarding any change you may make in life.
It may lead to confusion and to attempting to accomplish too many things at once.
In such cases it has been good for me to simplify.
To only concentrate on a couple or one of the things I have learnt that are the basic principles in this area of life. To increase my social skills those things were, for example, to retain a good attitude and to assume rapport.
5. Study more and course-correct.
Reconnecting with the essentials frequently works nicely. Yet occasionally at a hard period or when I feel stuck it has been useful to shift my direction slightly instead.
To study how I do things, what outcomes they bring in and to compare it to how individuals who have gone before me have done things.
To be honest with myself and confess that maybe one or two things or little pieces of that I am doing are not working so well.
And to replace those items for a period – based on what others have done in the past – and see whether that works better.
Even if it means that I have to go out of my comfort zone.
6. Remind yourself: Only for today!
Here’s a little phrase I learned from Brian Tracy that I frequently use when I’m having a terrible day with a new habit.
I tell to myself: Just for today I will XX!
Substitute XX with what you will do only for today such as getting exercise, getting starting with the most critical job first thing in the day or eating a nutritious lunch.
By convincing myself that I just have to accomplish it today I gain two significant benefits:
I remove the mental load of the previous times I did it and future times when I shall do it. And thus the work becomes considerably lighter and the inner resistance melts away.
It also reminds me that the time that I am spending in altering a behavior is not the rest of my life. In 30 days or so the habit will basically be automatic so it is not something I have to perform on willpower for the next several years or decades.
And guess what, when tomorrow arrives I’ll probably have a wonderful day again with less resistance and I will most likely feel like accomplishing the work again.
7. Connect with the people around you to let it out (and to refill your motivation)
I've discovered that when the obstacles seem overwhelming or I don't have the energy to confront another obstacle then one thing that may help a ton is lot simply speak up about it.
To chat to my wife, a friend or my parents about it. To rant, to work things out for myself while the other person listens. And to receive some level-headed and experience-based advise when I need it.
This refills my energy and drive.
If you have problems with finding someone to open out to at this time – or the people in your life have difficulty with understanding or supporting you with a current struggle – then you might for instance seek out supportive Facebook groups or other groups online.
8. Look back and enjoy how far you've come.
When you feel like giving up and you're stressed and fatigued then it's easy to lose perspective on what you've really done thus far.
The things you've learnt, the steps you've gotten to done and the hurdles you've conquered.
Ponder on those things when you feel like giving up. Acknowledge and celebrate everything you've done thus far to propel yourself towards your objective. Acknowledge yourself for the work you've put in.
This can allow you to adjust your viewpoint to a more hopeful one once again and to identify a new step you may take to keep going ahead.
9. Just give yourself some slack and take a break.
Yeah, it could seem like you simply want to quit up. Yet in my experience it may sometimes just signify that you need a well-deserved break after you've put in too much effort or attempted to stay with an overly optimistic time-plan.
So when that occurs heed to your body and thoughts.
Take a few hours or days off. Relax, rejuvenate and forget everything about the work, project or anything you wish to give up on during that time.
This may affect how you feel in a spectacular manner and refresh your batteries.
10. See whether it's time to stop and to try something different.
Perhaps it's not time to give up. Perhaps it may be time to leave what you are doing and to try something different.
If you feel like giving up or you are bored a lot, if you have no true enthusiasm or excitement or interest about a change or your present course then ask yourself these two questions:
Am doing this because I actually want it?
Or am I doing it because someone instructed me to or because so many others around me appear to have done it or are working on it?
What you desire isn't simple to know before you get started however. You may need to attempt several pathways until you discover one that suits you.
And just because everyone around you appears to enjoy running doesn't imply that you have to love it or that you have to give up on the habit of regular exercise.
Try walking, biking, playing badminton or table tennis instead. Try a fresh approach of accomplishing what you want and see if it's a better match and more fun for you.